Three
Saves in One
It was a regular downpour when Angela and I began
sidewalk counseling at the Hagerstown, Maryland abortuary. The abortuary wasn’t
open as yet so Angela and I were standing under the awning on the stoop at the
adjacent building to keep dry. About this time a mother and her daughter drove
up and parked their car down the street. It was from West Virginia so it was an
easy decision that the girl was there for an abortion.
When
we saw the mother and daughter get out of the car we both went down to
intercept them. Angela started talking first while showing them our flyers. The
mother seemed interested and was listening. I suggested we go into the building
where we had been standing to get out of the rain.
While
talking to them we found out the girl was 19 years old, her name is Margaret
and neither she nor her boyfriend have jobs. The boyfriend didn't care if she got
an abortion. Margaret is living with her grandmother who did not want her to
get an abortion.
It
turned out she wanted an abortion so she would not lose her figure. Her mother
said she would not lose her figure as she did not when pregnant with her.
The
mother did not want her to get an abortion although she got the money for her
and drove her down there. We found out the mother had an abortion at the same
place many years ago, has become Christian since then and has regretted the
abortion. She told me the name of the church she attends, but I was not
familiar with it. She said she wished someone was outside of the abortion
clinic when she was there so long ago.
Angela
continued through the flyers when all of a sudden the mother took one of the papers
and showed the picture of an aborted baby to her daughter. The mother was
visibly very shaken and couldn't even hold the paper still. I am sure she was
thinking of her own abortion. She asked her daughter if she wanted her baby to
look like that. The mother then continued through the flyers like she was one
of us -.listing out the problems of abortion - now and in the future.
I
had my coffee cup with my three year old granddaughter’s picture on it and I
told both of them how the girl’s mother had almost aborted her three times
before she finally ended up giving her birth and then giving her to my daughter
for adoption. Margaret smiled when she saw the picture of my beautiful
granddaughter. I told her my daughter wants to adopt another and would be happy
to have her child.
The
mother did most of the talking. The daughter didn’t want to hear anything. The
girl wanted to go out to the car and her mother kept insisting she stay and
listen. When I went outside to get a fetal model I had in the car, Angela told
the mother about cooperating in the sin of abortion and expecting to be
forgiven was the sin of presumption and worse than the sin itself.
The
mother also told Angela that she had been praying the night before for a
something to happen so that her daughter would not go through with the
abortion.
Angela
says, "There you go. This has been an answer to your prayers."
Angela
later offered to take her down to St. Mary's to pray. Angela told her how
beautiful and inspiring the church is, but the mother knew her girl would not
go.
When I returned I asked Margaret how many
weeks along she was and she said, “I think I am nine weeks.” I then showed her
the fetal model and told her that her baby was just about that size with eyes,
nose, ears, toes and fingers plus a beating heart. (Her mother later said this
was the clincher for the girl.) I gave her the model and she took it and then later
gave it to her mom.
We
told them about all of the help available including a pregnancy center in her
home town. I gave both of them a card with my phone number on it.
The
girl left first and Angela gave her a reassuring hug and a CD of a recent very
inspiring pro-life talk.
With
her daughter gone, I gave the mother some information on healing for herself,
another good flyer on the facts of abortion and I also gave her a hug with the
promise we would help her if she needed it.
We
watched as the mother entered her car and handed her daughter the fetal model
and told her, “Here, hold your 'baby'.”
After
a ‘save’ or a ‘near save’ we usually do a “Lessons Learned” and ask ourselves,
“What did we do right and what did we do wrong?” When I am by myself I usually
say, “I should have said… I should have said….” This time we felt the flyers
and the fetal model were the right material and we used them properly. I
jokingly told Angela that she should have told the mother that God answered her
prayers by sending two angels to talk to her this morning, or at least one angel
and an Angela :-)
A
good triple save! A baby was saved from being killed; a girl was saved from
making a mistake she would regret the rest of her life; and, a woman is on her
way to being healed from a mistake she made many years ago and still suffered
from.
Jim
Fritz